Dear Harry-edited

Q: Dear Harry,

Sometimes I feel like I don’t belong. I have a couple of great friends, get decent grades, good family, you know live a regular life, but sometimes when I’m in large groups I can’t seem to be myself. I have a few friends, but cannot call myself popular. Some call me shy, but what can I do to feel like I belong when I am not surrounded by my best friends?
Sincerely, Normal Me

A: Dear Normal Me,

I know that sometimes big crowds don’t give us the opportunity to show our true colors and can make us feel intimidated. However, from what you have told me, I do understand that you do have good friends that care about you. Remember just because someone may have a million “friends” that person may not have someone by their side when problems arise. Be grateful for the few friends that will catch you when you fall. On another note, if you want to socialize more, just show everyone your true personality. Speak up a little more, and hey, what’s the worst that can happen? They might walk away, or you might meet new people that will introduce you to new ideas and new customs. Sometimes we have to throw ourselves out there to see what the world has to offer.
Best of Luck, HiTide Harry

Q: In the span of two years my boyfriend has cheated on me several times. Now, he says he really wants me back and is extremely sorry for what he did. He says he can’t live without me. I miss him, but he has hurt me too much. I do not have the strength to forgive him because he was the one that took my virginity. What should I do?
Sincerely, Heart Broken

A: Dear Heart Broken,
I am sorry to hear what you’ve had to go through. I want to commend you on your bravery for breaking up with him. There is a line in a song that says; “you don’t know what you’ve got ’til it’s gone.” Obviously, this person did not realize how much you’re worth until the day he lost you. As a lady, you have to demand the love and respect you deserve. Forgiveness is not an emotion, but a decision one makes. When you forgive someone, you choose to excuse the persons fault or mistake. This does not mean you let the person take advantage of you. Because you were sexually involved with him and he has cheated on you several times, I advise you to go to a clinic and make sure you do not have a sexually transmitted disease. If you choose to not get back together with him, you should get rid of the things that remind you of him and cut him out of your life. The cheater is not feeling a sense of repentance but remorse.  You are young, and believe me, there are plenty of fish in the sea. If the break up is too much for you to handle, you should also seek professional help from a trust counselor or psychologist.
Good Luck, Hitide Harry